There are these moments during particular days where I must be incredibly and openly honest with myself about what I'm going through and feeling. I know when it is preparing to come up because I get this wave of energy from the apex of my neck down to my lower back and I feel my mood begin to change. I used to be frightened of it...the feeling of water just about dripping down my back. But in time I have been taught the correct way to sit with it.
What follows after is pure stillness. Deep in thought. Numb. I feel truth bubbling to the surface.
Frequently we are going through life not realising that there are things under the surface. We think we have totally recovered or have moved on, but actually there are still pieces to the puzzle that must be put together. Maybe Maybe it is just one piece left, just maybe it's just this moment where you need to sit down and get quiet for the last time, or perhaps it demands more of your attention.
There's an interesting balance between moving forward and taking the time, whatever the situation may be, and starting to understand what is happening inside of you. I believe almost all of the time when anyone is hurt and other people recognise it they attempt to tell that person to pick themselves up as fast as is humanly possible and forget the past. This advice, while intended to be helpful, isn't actually realistic - because the same person who gave that guidance, in the same situation, couldn't possibly take it.
The most sensible advice you could give is not to forget as quick as you can and blast forward, but to sit with whatever is occurring inside. To let it all flow through you. The only possible way you can really understand what something actually means to you, especially in a relationship, is by experiencing the result of things.
Have a honest moment.
Don't run or hide from feelings that you would associate as negative. They're life's way of balancing you out. When you try to block them or manipulate them, you are putting yourself in a bad place. Let life do what it needs to do in order to keep you learning and growing.
When the moment is over, then go on. Do not make an attempt to change it while you are in it. Something is trying to talk with you. Open yourself to emotions and feelings and let them talk reason into your heart.
What follows after is pure stillness. Deep in thought. Numb. I feel truth bubbling to the surface.
Frequently we are going through life not realising that there are things under the surface. We think we have totally recovered or have moved on, but actually there are still pieces to the puzzle that must be put together. Maybe Maybe it is just one piece left, just maybe it's just this moment where you need to sit down and get quiet for the last time, or perhaps it demands more of your attention.
There's an interesting balance between moving forward and taking the time, whatever the situation may be, and starting to understand what is happening inside of you. I believe almost all of the time when anyone is hurt and other people recognise it they attempt to tell that person to pick themselves up as fast as is humanly possible and forget the past. This advice, while intended to be helpful, isn't actually realistic - because the same person who gave that guidance, in the same situation, couldn't possibly take it.
The most sensible advice you could give is not to forget as quick as you can and blast forward, but to sit with whatever is occurring inside. To let it all flow through you. The only possible way you can really understand what something actually means to you, especially in a relationship, is by experiencing the result of things.
Have a honest moment.
Don't run or hide from feelings that you would associate as negative. They're life's way of balancing you out. When you try to block them or manipulate them, you are putting yourself in a bad place. Let life do what it needs to do in order to keep you learning and growing.
When the moment is over, then go on. Do not make an attempt to change it while you are in it. Something is trying to talk with you. Open yourself to emotions and feelings and let them talk reason into your heart.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Need some more content to move forward with your life and recover from a relationship? Try these ex boyfriend quotes out.